The Year In Review at 11:44 AM

After reading my wife's post, I was very reflective of how things have changed for us over the past year. Occasionally I try to think back to two years ago or more and try to figure out how we worked before this whole arrangement and I really have a hard time remembering.

I suppose a big part of that is that even before I asked her to take the reins, I was still much more helpful than most. I did not hesitate to do the dishes or the vacuuming, I was an attentive lover, we were able to talk to each other, and we were both very much in love. Sometimes it felt like we were in a bit of a rut and sex started to feel like the same thing over and over, but that was because it worked very well for her and I enjoyed pleasing her so much that I rarely complained about it.

I remember that a lot of the time when she would go out with her friends while I stayed home with the kids, I tended to look at a lot of porn, take care of myself and then play games on the computer until she got home or I gave up waiting up. I didn't usually clean anything while she was out unless I wanted to do something surprising, and we didn't exchange dirty text messages very often.

Ever since about a week after I started this blog though, she's had both keys to my belt. Her nights out often involve one or two things that need to get cleaned before I can have my me-time, and while I can still look at all the porn I want I can't do a damn thing about it. This has the effect of leaving me wanting more and wanting to stay up until she gets home on the off chance that I can get some when she does come home.

In general over the last year there hasn't been a lot of "protocol" to speak of. I usually rub her feet every day (sometimes we forget but I never refuse it when she asks and I try to make it a point to do it at some point every day), I do ask for her permission to cum when we're having sex (or wait for her to say "Oh god I need you to cum" while we're going at it) and most of the time I remember to ask if I can come to bed (sometimes she seems into that, sometimes not). Slowly but surely, she's come to expect more of me and that's been great.

If you had asked me a year ago where I thought this would lead, I really wouldn't have been able to tell you. On the one hand is the unrealistic kinky side of me that would have hoped for things to be completely different, me licking her feet every time she walked in the room and every second of my day revolving around her. On the other would have been my reserved side expecting her to say no or to just pay lip service to this arrangement and still do a lot around the house, not wanting to be lazy or feel bitchy. I'm happy to report that the last year has been a happy medium, with new kinks and lots of normal relationship in there too.

We've been talking more (as she pointed out in her post), we've been closer, and the sex has been great... for anyone who thinks they have the inclination for this type of relationship, I say go for it, for sure, without a doubt and don't hesitate to throw yourself into it fully because the rewards have been amazing. I love her more now than ever before and every day she is doing something new and wonderful and ensuring that I will be forever in her service.