The Year Ahead at 6:22 PM

So after our review on Sunday, we talked a a lot about the past year and then about the year ahead. Lately my princess has been much more comfortable in her role as the head of our relationship, and in the last few days in particular its really shown. This is both wonderful and frightening, and as we were talking about the future it was very clear that the next little while is going to start getting much more serious.

As mentioned in my last post, she realized that she's been letting me get away with forgetting things a lot, or letting things she tells me to do get pushed back behind things for work -- and while that's OK sometimes, its become almost a habit. In fact, looking at my todo list, you have to go down 17 items to find something that is not work-related. So clearly I need some more focus on her and the household.

In the mean time, she has been taking some time to focus on what she wants out of this relationship, and what it means for her to be dominant. Lately she's been feeling it more and the past few days she's definitely been showing it more... from things like the very one-sided sex we had on Friday night (Saturday morning really) to our discussion last night about chores. She told me that some things would be changing, that she would have higher expectations of me and be less lenient about me forgetting. She wants me to very seriously consider punishments and what I think I can and cannot take, because she will start using punishments and she will make sure that they are unpleasant but not unbearable. She has definitely been enjoying the kink more and while she's not going to make everything about the kink she's willing to bring it in some more. For example, the other day she was looking online and found a buttplug harness that she rather enjoys and would like to get for me to wear. She also found a dildo gag that she likes (see Being Her Knight) and we will no doubt be getting soon... she's starting to enjoy sex without me cumming as much as sex with me cumming, so I can probably expect the counter to go past the 1 week mark more and more often.

Beyond those specific things, all she said were hints. Like with punishments... she has some things in mind but she's not ready to tell me them yet. Exactly how her expecations will change and exactly what she has been reading, she wouldn't say. In other words, she's finally taking an interest in her dominance for herself, not just for playing along with me.

So as we approach (and soon surpass) the 1 year mark of the change in our relationship, I'm excited but very anxious, wondering yet again what I've gotten myself into!

By the way, for those thinking of introducing this idea to their wives, my wife suggests reading the resources on Amity's World and especially her For Women page, and then having your wives read it -- Amity's writing has really helped her put dominance into perspective. You can tell your wife that you're not trying to turn her into a man-hater all you want, but Amity is very eloquent and explained it in a way that I never could have to my wife. She and I both highly recommend the site to any women looking to take charge or any men trying to get their wife into dominating them. However, I must also personally advocate communication -- this type of relationship doesn't work without it! Regular, honest and open communication helps you check in as a couple before you bow before her as a slave, and if you're not OK then you can't serve her properly!

I look forward to where the next year will take us, and hope to be able to continue to talk about the interesting goings-on around here for years to come!